When I went through my training the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center, there weren’t many women on base.

I remember that there was a lot of talk around increasing the number of women in law enforcement and how my class had a whopping 8 women which was a breakthrough as the 5 classes before and after mine didn’t have a total of 8 women.

If you look at research for girls entering into the fields of science, technology, engineering and math, you’ll find much of the same.

Something happens where girls dumb down their intelligence.

A girl’s confidence plummets during puberty.

I remember trying to figure out who I was and struggling with being strong enough to stand out.

Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson, psychologist and author of Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals, wrote a blog post entitled “The Trouble with Bright Girls” that was featured in Psychology Today. You can find it at https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-success/201101/the-trouble-bright-girls

The company Always did a campaign about this phenomenon. (See video below)


“Like a girl” has become an insult and their campaign was specifically designed to shine light on this.

Over time, this insult has gotten into the heads of many women that they are less than their male counterparts.

Being “like a girl” and “like a woman” is not something to apologize for but to celebrate.

For the first time in 8 years, I have marketed my annual Design Your Destiny LIVE (www.DesignYourDestinyLIVE.com)event as an event for women.

In the past, I was afraid to offend anyone that I’m connected to and a part of me felt as if I was “too soft” if I did.

And, while five (5) strong, brilliant men have stepped up to volunteer (woo-hoo!), this year attendees will be all be women, including MC’s, speakers, and panelists.

That is something worth celebrating.

ACTION ITEM: The Upside Thought of the week is about challenging stereotypes. Where have you been putting yourself and others in a box? What can you do to break from that?

Why can’t the statement “run like a girl”equal “to win the race”?!?

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