Delicate times. 

That’s the best way I can describe the world today. 

My choice to remain upside with all that swirls around me and in me, doesn’t mean I’m oblivious to the pain going on in the world. 

Most days I’m engaged in difficult, emotionally charged conversations with people whose views differ from mine. 

Most days I experience bouts of uncertainty questioning what I’m being asked – dare I say, called by the Holy Spirit — to do with my life. 

Many days the conversations are with people, ranging in age from 21-71 who are dealing with addictions, trauma, and grief. Usually there is also a lot of anger associated with each of these conditions. What can you do with it? 

Ralph Waldo Emerson said it eloquently when he wrote, “For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” 

After 9/11, I was angry. 

Very, very angry. 

This anger was the culmination of years of anger – and until I learned where my anger came from and I shifted the way I saw the world, I rarely felt really happy. 

I see a lot of that going on right now. 

In 2001, I made the decision I didn’t want anger to be my operating system where I traded in my happiness for the pain that was behind the anger. 

There are things that are going on in the world right now that anger me greatly – and I focus my energy and efforts on taking positive actions. 

And, I make room to grieve. 

Happiness is a state of being. 

While you may experience joy here and there, if your neuro-network allows anger to run the show, you stop yourself from choosing happiness and being happy. 

By holding on to anger for too long in any given situation, you harm yourself. 

There are certain techniques I use to release anger and grief. For example, to release anger, I first identify what it is I am angry about and why. I examine the content and the context. Then I decide to take the energy created by the emotion and consciously direct it into a constructive action. By taking positive action, I de-energize the situation, detach from the content to focus my action, and am freed up to move forward disencumbered. 

You deserve to be happy. 

The best leaders get this. 

Not from a place of ignorance, rather from a place of choice. 

ACTION:  The Upside Challenge of the week is to notice when you are angry. 

What is the violation, thwarting, frustration? 

Is there something you can do that is constructive in response (either about the situation or as self-care)? 

See how taking the action affects your mood, energy, and effectiveness. 

The world needs you and your brilliance.

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