Get Off the Slow Boat to Success

Lisa Marie Platske • August 24, 2015

 

One of the greatest elements I love about my work is the incredible connections I’ve made.

Today, I had a heart-to-heart with a woman who has been following me for 7 years. Yep. 7 years.

 During that span of time…..


  • she’s read the Upside Thinker every Monday.
  • she’s attended countless no-charge leadership trainings via my Upside Chat where I interview an expert or have someone interview me.
  • And, she’s read all of my books and even attended a few of my in-person no-charge trainings.


And, during our conversation, she shared that she’s implemented most of the Upside Challenges or action items that I’ve suggested – and GOTTEN RESULTS! Yet, she knew that what she really needed was to say YES! and invest in working with me one-on-one to really get the success she was working too hard to achieve.


She knew she needed a partner that had 20+ years of leadership, connection, and positioning experience to teach her how to be seen, heard, and rewarded in her field. She knew it would pay off financially but she kept letting the voices in her head that whispered, “You can’t afford to work with her. Your smart. Just figure it out on your own….” keep her small — and end up feeling like the world’s best kept secret. Brilliant – and unknown. ((Have you ever heard those voices and let them keep you from taking action?!?))


 

When she called me, she was ready. She didn’t want to hear about what it looked like to work with me she was READY!!!

 

She wanted the expedited UPS shipping model vs. the US Postal Service model. Both get your package delivered but one can take much longer. She was exhausted trying to put all the pieces together herself. Today she said she gets the difference between possessing great ideas and knowledge and knowing how to implement them.


Maybe you’ve been in this same situation with making an investment in yourself, too – and you haven’t been able to get past those voices in your head. Or, maybe you’re just exhausted from trying to do everything on your own and knowing that you’re still not where you want to be. (What got you here won’t get you there.) It’s not about being “smart enough” or capable to do something, it’s about having tools in your toolbox that you can use for a lifetime that can skyrocket your success. If you feel that this speaks to you, I encourage you to check in with this week’s action item.


ACTION ITEM: The Upside Challenge of the week is to see where you need to invest to get the results you’ve been wanting. Your time is now!


Remember life is change. Growth is optional Choose wisely. Lead Upside.



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