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Are You Ready to Make the Changes You Need to Get the Results You Want?

LisaMarie • Jul 01, 2019

 

In the leadership conversations I’ve had over the years, I’ve discovered most people are looking for a “secret” that will magically change their life or business for the better.


I’ll often be asked, “What do I need to do right now that will make the biggest difference to my ___________ (fill in the blank) relationship with my boss, co-workers, colleagues, clients, husband/wife, bottom line, etc.?”


They want the “Presto Chango” secret that with the wave of a magic wand will make everything work out for the best.


In reality, there is no secret.


If you aren’t getting the results you want, you have to change something.


And, the hardest thing to change is behavior.


Making a positive change in behavior requires you to stop doing something and/or start doing something else – and it’s easier said than done.


When it comes to breaking a habit and creating a new one, it’s never been an easy road for me to travel.


I’ve struggled at different intersections of my life with making choices around health, money, relationships, etc.


After staying in the struggle long enough where the pain of staying where I was felt like too much to bear, I found myself at a crossroads.


It is from that place that I often reach out to someone I trust who has expertise in that particular area to get their sage advice about how to get the result I desire.


I’ve hired performance, health/fitness, business, speaking, finance and sales coaches, recognizing I can’t get where I want to go alone.


If you’re not where you want to be, you’ve got to make changes.


When I acknowledged the level of success I wanted for myself, I recognized I had to make a few big changes immediately.


Yet, how do you change your life in an instant?


Years ago, this started with who I hung out with and how I spent my time.


The people you intentionally spend your time with every day will either hold you back from the success you want or allow you to grow your professional life or enrich your personal life faster than you could have imagined.


No one does it alone.


We all need help along the way and people who see our brilliance and call us forth and partner with us to take steps to bring our brilliance out into the world.


This is why I have a 100-foot rule.


I don’t let anyone within 100-feet of me who is filled with negative energy.


It’s also why I lead events like Design Your Destiny Live and “Success to Significance” Leadership Summits. I get to be around people who see my brilliance, and I see theirs.


And, I have lots of friends who don’t have businesses, so it’s not about having work in common.


It’s about intentionally surrounding myself with the others who are similarly committed and lifting one another up.


Who do you hang out with?


Surround yourself with others who are going where you want to go because a rising tide lifts all boats.


Great leaders get this.


They aren’t working on projects in a vacuum waiting for the change to happen.


They’re reaching out to people who have been there before and can show them a new way.


You may have heard me say, “When you’re the smartest person in your circle of friends, you need new friends.”


To take this a step further, when I’ve decided to make a positive change in my behavior, I hired people who had massive amounts of experience in the area I wanted to create new habits.


Studying and learning from mentors and coaches whose expertise came from their own experience because they fell down and made mistakes like me was far more valuable than someone who read a few books on the topic.


Surrounding myself with these experts allowed me to experience a positive change in behavior faster than if I were to have gone it alone.


Where do you go to spend your time learning from people with experience?


Strategic choices to change the people in your circle can geometrically increase your rate of habit change, and this is an advantage you can create for yourself.


Surround yourself with the best. Learn from the best. Embody the best.   


Action:

The Upside Challenge of the week is to identify what new habits and behaviors you need to develop? Find an expert who models or has mastered these habits and behaviors. Study them — specifically their work and the habits that support their success. Practice what you learn.


The world needs you and your brilliance.



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Peace showed up in my morning reflection time. I was reminded of this prayer, one of my grandmother's favorites. Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Yes please. I sang this poem at the Upside Summit several years ago. Peace is elusive for most folks ... especially those who fight lies that live in their head. About 15 years ago, a fellow speaker asked me to coach her on living in the present moment. She told me she struggled with sleepless nights and feeling as if she was never doing enough. I'd been there and knew what it was like to have a head full of anxious thoughts, robbed of a peaceful life. And being internally calm is something I've worked a long time on, and what many of the leaders I work with want. See, peace is no longer a struggle for me. Despite the noise and chaos that's often around me, I don't have the same level of noise in me. How about you? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Last month, I woke up to a storm and a roof leak. It's these situations where " Lord, make me an instrument of peace " comes alive in practical ways. Remember... The World Needs You and Your Brilliance. ACTION: The Upside Challenge this week is to create a " Peace Practice " ritual for yourself which is especially helpful during a hectic work week. Take 5-10 minutes each day to intentionally cultivate a state of inner calm and presence. This could involve: - Sitting in silence, focusing on your breath - Listening to a guided meditation app - Reading an inspiring poem or prayer - Walking mindfully in nature - Doing gentle stretches or yoga poses The key is choosing a simple activity that allows you to release anxious thoughts. When feelings of stress, overwhelm or negativity arise, return to your Peace Practice. Use it as an anchor to realign with your intention for a peaceful mind. You get to choose calm over chronic anxiety. The world needs more leaders like you who prioritize their well-being so they can show up centered and resilient, no matter what arises.
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Do you ever get stuck focusing on "how" you are going to do something? Most folks get fixated on the mechanics and figuring out the next steps, and then start to see imaginary obstacles, becoming paralyzed and failing to move forward. You don't have to have all the answers or even map out every step. One of my genius zones is identifying the ONE action to take that will make the biggest difference in realizing your vision. Sure, doubt may creep in, especially when the journey seems long. You may even feel overwhelmed. That's why it's best not to go it alone. I've long asked myself, " What is mine to do right now? " The million little moments have added up to me having a leadership and spiritual wellness center. Summit Hills Farm is a place where leaders come to do their work, as leadership is an inside job. The first place to start is answering three questions: ~ Who am I? ~ What do I want? ~ Why does it matter? When you answer these, the how takes care of itself. They will serve as a compass when you're feeling lost on your journey. And simple isn't easy. ACTION: The Upside Challenge this week is to identify one idea you've been feeling stuck on. Instead of getting overwhelmed trying to map out every step of the "how", simply ask yourself: What is the next best small step I can take to move forward? Come up with ONE manageable action step you can accomplish this week. They should feel challenging but doable. Go shine your light. And keep moving forward.
By Lisa Marie Platske 18 Mar, 2024
My computer crashed, the screen on my phone shattered after a fatal drop, and after the roof leak and busted pipe in the apartment earlier in the week, I needed a date night sooner than later. Since Jim and I are typically in bed by 8pm, when we go out to eat it's really a date lunch. (smile) We decided to try someplace new, and it ended up exceeding our expectations. And it was what I would call a Kentucky gem. The food, the people, and the sign on the wall opposite the cash register had me want to come back, as well as forget about my bumpy week. I asked the owner's fiancé about the sign which read: If You Are Hungry and Have No Money, These Meals Have Been Paid for In Advance. Give a Server the Ticket and They Will Have the Kitchen Prepare Your Meal. One Meal Per day, One Meal Per Person. She shared that people give, and folks who are in need, often the homeless, can receive a meal every day. Yet often those receiving want to help out by taking out the trash, etc. It got me thinking about the good of humans and their natural desire to want to serve and give. Everyone wants the same thing. ~ To be valued. ~ To be appreciated. ~ To be loved. The best leaders get this. Jim and I bought 8 meals and shared a little goodwill in the midst of our rollercoaster-y week. Go shine your light. It's needed. Yes... the world truly needs you and your brilliance. ACTION: The Upside Challenge this week is to perform a small act of kindness for someone in need. Look for opportunities to extend compassion - a kind word, a donation to a food bank, bringing clothes to a shelter, buying a meal for a friend who's overwhelmed or overworked. Open your eyes and heart to those struggling around you. It may be someone closer than you realize. When you give freely without expectation, you receive just as much in return. In a society focused on individual success, make it a point to consciously choose to put someone in your community first. The world is better when we lift each other up.
By Lisa Marie Platske 14 Mar, 2024
The worst part of my business is seeing people with potential and watching them squander away their opportunities, understanding that if they put the work in and did it with consistent effort, they would be successful. Massively successful. Sure, they may have to make a few sacrifices. How do you think I got to where I'm at today?!? Instead, I see many folks with potential choose the path of least resistance, making excuses for their plight. I didn't get a silver spoon; rather, I graduated from The School of Hard Knocks. You've got to believe you can achieve what you want -- and that you're worthy to have it. This determines what's possible as it's the seed that will produce delicious fruit or not. You can't choose actions and make decisions from a place of lack or scarcity. That only leads to negative results. To change the success cycle, you have to first see the outcome you want, and then believe it's possible because your mind can't tell the difference between what is imagined and what is real. This goes back to the body of work that Aristotle and Plato brought to the world. If you can start to envision what your life will be like putting in the effort and getting the results, you can change the momentum in your life. Most people only envision the result -- and not the work. They see the car they want to drive or the house they want to live in, and forget to envision what they are willing to do to put forth the effort, energy, and work to have what they want. I've learned the more I do the hard things, the easier my life gets. When I do the easy things, the harder my life gets. Believe in yourself and take the necessary actions. If you don't think what you want is possible, borrow my belief in you. The World Needs You and Your Brilliance. ACTION: The Upside Challenge this week is to pick one area of your life where you've been making excuses or taking the path of least resistance. Identify the potential you have in this area that you have not fully tapped into if you were to do the work. Visualize in detail what it would look like and feel like if you put in the effort and achieved the success you desire. Let yourself believe at your core that you are capable of making it happen. Then, write down 1-3 small, specific action steps you can take this week to start making progress. They should feel challenging and actionable. Remember, the only limits on your potential are the ones you place on yourself. That's the power of Upside Thinking.
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