Because I’m an independent thinker who has been more of a rule breaker than a rule follower, the decision to hire someone who may influence my life is not a casual choice… and the truth is that while I’m eager to learn, I really don’t like being told what to do.
There, I said it.
I can hear the question marks over your head.
“Then how in the world did you spend over a decade as a Federal Law Enforcement Officer, Lisa Marie? And, how is it that for the 16 years in business you’ve rarely been without a coach?!?”
How does that happen?
You see, I value freedom, autonomy, and co-creation. What that means is I get to do me, and you get to do you – and we build a bridge between the intersection of each of our genius.
It’s from this place that I make most of the decisions in my life, including where I shop for clothing, food, art, etc.
When I’m in the inquiry of hiring a coach, I engage in conversations to get a feel for their energy in order to inform my decision.
- Are they able to be fully present and listen to my input and what I’m saying – or do they have all the answers?
- Do they have their own story and life outside of what they do?
- Can they handle push back and a difference of opinion?
I often use the word “mentor” or “advisor” to describe the coaches I’ve worked with, or dare I say “friend.”
When I hire someone, I see them as a co-creator in my business and life. In working together with them, I find that I can give myself permission to make adjustments to how I work and live.
Our connection turns into a partnership that pays big dividends.
And, this is how I work with my leadership coaching clients.
I see their genius and they see mine.
I advise them to take action to expand their own leadership and vision in the world, and share my best practices, experience, wisdom, divine downloads, and yes opinions.
At the end of a call, I often say the words, “I love you.”
I say it because I feel it, and because these connections are not merely transactional. They are relationships. They require safety, respect, honesty, commitment, and vulnerability. They run deep. The investment of building strong relationships pays off geometrically.
For as long as I can remember, I have had a strong connection to Africa, and so I will share an image that may inspire you to think about the way you nourish your relationships.
The baobob tree, or tree of life, is known for its vast and deep root system. It’s an incredibly strong tree, capable of surviving drought, and it has an amazing, beautiful canopy that is lush with leaves and fruit.
ACTION: The Upside Challenge of the week is to invest time and energy in your “root system.”
Examine how you hire and work with people.
Are you building a deep and wide “root” system?
Starting this week choose to reach out to three people: one that you’ve never met, one that you want to develop a stronger or deeper relationship with, and one that you want to nourish to keep healthy.
See how this weekly practice unfolds over time.
The world needs you and your brilliance.