Have you ever felt there aren’t enough hours in the day to complete your “to-do” list and also get to spend guilt-free time with family and friends?
Have you ever longed for quiet time where you could simply sit without feeling you were wasting your time?
I get it.
When I first started my business, I was excited as I had done my research and was ready to serve as many clients as possible.
I envisioned Upside Thinking, Inc. growing so big that we would take up a floor in one of the skyscrapers in Los Angeles.
As I did my work and added more and more clients who gave me glowing reviews, my passion grew – until it didn’t.
I began feeling the pressure of handling all of the pieces of my business and started feeling as if I was always behind.
In my mind, I had created an invisible destination and had set the bar so high I also stopped celebrating my accomplishments.
Actually I couldn’t even see them.
Can you relate?
The thought I had was if only I could get caught up, so I began working day and night, feeling committed to what I was doing – and seeking to get a handle on the workload.
I felt like I was on a hamster wheel and couldn’t figure out how to get off, so around and around I kept going, running faster and faster.
While I knew I wanted more balance in my life, I didn’t really understand what that meant. Yet, I was willing to try.
I started small, reaching out to friends and family more often – and spending time in nature.
During this season of life, I learned how to be, and not just do.
While I can’t say this was full burnout or adrenal fatigue, it was a wake-up call that had me restructure my business and focus on a client’s leadership and life.
In May of 2019, the World Health Organization (WHO) amended its classification of burnout from a medical condition to an occupational phenomenon stating, “Burn-out is a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed. It is characterized by three dimensions: feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion; increased mental distance from one’s job, or feelings of negativism or cynicism related to one’s job; and reduced professional efficacy. ”
As a leader, it’s your responsibility to examine your own work habits and how they are contributing to your well-being and those around you.
So, what can you do?
1. Listen to Your Body. From the moment you wake up to the moment you lay your head on your pillow, be mindful of what your body is communicating.
In the morning, I scan my body from the top of my head to the tip of my toes paying attention to any areas that are tight or speaking to me. Before getting out of bed, I do bedroom yoga breathing into the areas that feel restricted to release and loosen the muscles.
Throughout the day, I use the power of breath to stay focused, noticing how I’m feeling.
When you take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth at least 3 times, you stimulate the release of oxytocin, the relaxation and “feel good’ hormone. This will also heighten your senses of taste, touch, sound, sight, and smell – and you will even become more intuitive, allowing you to make better decisions in business.
2. Just Say “No”. The best leaders understand their time is their most valuable asset.
When you make decisions, choose to do so from a place of full alignment to your values.
I have clients write down how much influence, impact, income – and joy the activity will bring them and on a scale of 1 – 10, if it’s not a 9 or a 10, encourage them to just say “no”.
3. Celebrate Your Accomplishments. On day #3 at Design Your Destiny Live, I talk about the 6th Pillar of Leadership, Evaluate Your Progress.
During the presentation, I share the 5 most important questions to do this – and one of them is to identify when and with whom you will celebrate your accomplishments.
Most people who are focused and driven are conditioned to look for the next project.
I certainly was.
Moving on to the next project without celebrating became an unhealthy habit that stole the joy from what I was doing.
Take time to celebrate you – and to celebrate your accomplishments with the people you love.
This can be something tangible like a massage or going out to dinner – or something more simple or quiet.
What’s most important is that you celebrate your accomplishments.
ACTION: The Upside Challenge of the week is to assess your level of balance and health in your work/home life. See if you can integrate one or more of the suggested healthy habits.
The world needs you and your brilliance.