Courageous Leadership Includes Mastering Your Mindset

Have you ever found yourself in a season of heartache wondering why you can’t just get a break? 

You work and work and work – and it feels as if you’re in the same place or worse. 

Something breaks and needs to be repaired or you open your mailbox only to find an unexpected bill or overdue payment after an already long day. 

The lack of opportunities or things going right feel like you’re being punished. 

During this type of “dry times,” you may feel hopeless and desperate. 

When I was in Costa Rica during the end of their dry season, part of the land was sun-scorched and brown, thirsting for relief. 

It was almost as if it was crying out to be comforted and I understood in a visceral way my own thirst and longing.  

I remembered nights when I would just collapse on my bed and sob because it felt as if there were far more disappointments than wins, and I just couldn’t figure out what I had done to deserve this.  

I went seeking for ways to fill the hole in my heart that was aching from not fully understanding why it seemed as if everything was crumbling around me. 

Club hopping. 

Dating guys I didn’t really like just so I didn’t have to be alone. 


Silence was deafening, and I struggled to be present with myself. 

In 1993, Bill Murray starred in the movie Groundhog Day as Phil, a weatherman. 

When he goes out to cover the annual emergence of the groundhog from its hole, he finds himself in a time warp after getting stuck in a blizzard. 

Every day, Phil wakes up to the same day. And, he’s stuck living the same day over and over and over again – until he gets it “right”. 

The dry seasons I lived through felt like that. 

I began expecting something negative to show up – and it would. 

· A friend would betray me.

· A relationship would go awry.

· A bill would show up at the worst time. 

Then, something clicked. I connected to the hole in me. I listened to the thirst, and realized I wanted a different outcome more than the complaint, and that depended on me doing something different. 

I wanted to be someone that could make a difference – and recognized I couldn’t do it from that place. 

So, I watched for command-and-control leadership and inspirational leadership, noting the differences in their behaviors, writings, and attitudes. 

Courageous leaders get the value of mastering your mindset. 

So, I began to study neuroscience. 

I continued to invest in developing myself. I read books, watched movies, and attended events where I listened to experts on the subject. 

And, all the information and message sank in. I began believing and seeing how everything was conspiring for my greatest good. 

I began finding evidence for this over and over and over again in research and in my experiences. 

And, I began listening to God’s voice, trusting that everything would happen in Divine Right Timing, and following the breadcrumbs He left for me. 

When I look at where the breadcrumbs led me and what has transpired over the past 20 years it’s astounding and humbling. 

These days the dry seasons are just that – seasons. 

ACTION:  The Upside Challenge of the week is to determine if you are in a dry season? What do you need? And what leadership attitude to you choose to have in order to move forward? 

The world needs you and your brilliance.

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