Why You Need to Know the Difference Between a Goal and a Commitment

Whenever it comes to the final quarter of the year, I’m in awe at how fast the year has passed.

Jim and I shared that this year seemed to move at marathon pace for both of us.

With only 9 ½ weeks left in the year, it means you’ve got less than 20% of 2019 to ensure you’ve accomplished everything you wanted.

For me, this was a year of less lows and more highs, less efficiency and more effectiveness, and less time wasted and more intention which led to more celebrations, increased well-being, and a greater sense of peace in my business.

How about you?

Are you where you wanted to be?

If your answer is “YES,” congratulations on mapping out your success plan, sticking to it, and staying the course. (A BIG shout-out to clients Pam Johnson and Shannon King who just had a set of huge wins for doing just this.)

If your answer is “NO,” you’re not alone.

Research shows only 8% of all people ever complete a New Year’s resolution, and most people give up on what they want by early February.

This is one of the reasons I advise clients to choose commitments, not goals, and to understand the difference between the two.

The definition of a goal is “an aim or desired result” whereas a commitment is defined as “the state of being dedicated to an activity.”

The emphasis is on the intensity or drive, not the action itself. 

Because a change of action is often required, it is best to be free of attachment to the specific. Otherwise, when adjustments are required, it can feel like a problem. This is why commitment is invaluable.

This does not mean you have a Plan B. You’re committed and willing to stay the course.

Ultimately, you can map out anything you want, however, without passion and intensity to stay the course and do whatever it takes, you’ll probably give up when the going gets tough.

Most people do.

This is why I work with 4 different coaches and ask my colleagues to hold me accountable.

Saying you want to do something is a goal. I want to (lose weight, deliver a TED talk, grow my business. Just fill in the blank).

Saying “I will do that thing by a specific date by hiring a coach who has the skill set to best support me in getting what I want, commit to take action on the plan they help me create, and ensure I hold myself accountable with regular check-ins” is a “SMART” commitment. (SMART: Specific Measurable Attainable Relevant Time-bounded)

This is not just an aim at a random target, rather the dedication and intentionality of your energy in moving through your plan – and not trying to go it alone. As in a relationship, commitment coupled with integrity ensures you keep your promises to your intention.

There’s still time to finish 2019 strong – and begin thinking about 2020.

Here are 3 ways to do just that:

Get on a call to talk with me about coaching in 2020

Be in the room at one of my upcoming events – “Vulnerability in Leadership” in Detroit, MI on October 26th or at Design Your Destiny Live in Manhattan Beach, CA on January 23 – 25th

Sign up for my women’s leadership retreat in Redondo Beach, CA on December 11th and 12th

Just reply to this email.

What are you waiting for?

Your time is now.

The world is waiting.


The Upside Challenge of the week is to examine where you need commitment and not just goals. How can you get help? Take that step so you can see your commitment in action. Then, call someone to celebrate! 

Take a stand for something.

People get behind where your heart lies, not your knowledge.

The world needs you and your brilliance.

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