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Why You Need to Know the Difference Between a Goal and a Commitment

LisaMarie • Oct 21, 2019

 

Whenever it comes to the final quarter of the year, I’m in awe at how fast the year has passed.


Jim and I shared that this year seemed to move at marathon pace for both of us.


With only 9 ½ weeks left in the year, it means you’ve got less than 20% of 2019 to ensure you’ve accomplished everything you wanted.


For me, this was a year of less lows and more highs, less efficiency and more effectiveness, and less time wasted and more intention which led to more celebrations, increased well-being, and a greater sense of peace in my business.


How about you?


Are you where you wanted to be?


If your answer is “YES,” congratulations on mapping out your success plan, sticking to it, and staying the course. (A BIG shout-out to clients Pam Johnson and Shannon King who just had a set of huge wins for doing just this.)


If your answer is “NO,” you’re not alone.


Research shows only 8% of all people ever complete a New Year’s resolution, and most people give up on what they want by early February.


This is one of the reasons I advise clients to choose commitments, not goals, and to understand the difference between the two.


The definition of a goal is “an aim or desired result” whereas a commitment is defined as “the state of being dedicated to an activity.”


The emphasis is on the intensity or drive, not the action itself. 


Because a change of action is often required, it is best to be free of attachment to the specific. Otherwise, when adjustments are required, it can feel like a problem. This is why commitment is invaluable.


This does not mean you have a Plan B. You’re committed and willing to stay the course.


Ultimately, you can map out anything you want, however, without passion and intensity to stay the course and do whatever it takes, you’ll probably give up when the going gets tough.


Most people do.


This is why I work with 4 different coaches and ask my colleagues to hold me accountable.


Saying you want to do something is a goal. I want to (lose weight, deliver a TED talk, grow my business. Just fill in the blank).


Saying “I will do that thing by a specific date by hiring a coach who has the skill set to best support me in getting what I want, commit to take action on the plan they help me create, and ensure I hold myself accountable with regular check-ins” is a “SMART” commitment. (SMART: Specific Measurable Attainable Relevant Time-bounded)


This is not just an aim at a random target, rather the dedication and intentionality of your energy in moving through your plan – and not trying to go it alone. As in a relationship, commitment coupled with integrity ensures you keep your promises to your intention.


There’s still time to finish 2019 strong – and begin thinking about 2020.


Here are 3 ways to do just that:


Get on a call to talk with me about coaching in 2020


Be in the room at one of my upcoming events – “Vulnerability in Leadership” in Detroit, MI on October 26th or at Design Your Destiny Live in Manhattan Beach, CA on January 23 – 25th


Sign up for my women’s leadership retreat in Redondo Beach, CA on December 11th and 12th


Just reply to this email.


What are you waiting for?


Your time is now.


The world is waiting.


Action:

The Upside Challenge of the week is to examine where you need commitment and not just goals. How can you get help? Take that step so you can see your commitment in action. Then, call someone to celebrate! 


Take a stand for something.


People get behind where your heart lies, not your knowledge.


The world needs you and your brilliance.

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My computer crashed, the screen on my phone shattered after a fatal drop, and after the roof leak and busted pipe in the apartment earlier in the week, I needed a date night sooner than later. Since Jim and I are typically in bed by 8pm, when we go out to eat it's really a date lunch. (smile) We decided to try someplace new, and it ended up exceeding our expectations. And it was what I would call a Kentucky gem. The food, the people, and the sign on the wall opposite the cash register had me want to come back, as well as forget about my bumpy week. I asked the owner's fiancé about the sign which read: If You Are Hungry and Have No Money, These Meals Have Been Paid for In Advance. Give a Server the Ticket and They Will Have the Kitchen Prepare Your Meal. One Meal Per day, One Meal Per Person. She shared that people give, and folks who are in need, often the homeless, can receive a meal every day. Yet often those receiving want to help out by taking out the trash, etc. It got me thinking about the good of humans and their natural desire to want to serve and give. Everyone wants the same thing. ~ To be valued. ~ To be appreciated. ~ To be loved. The best leaders get this. Jim and I bought 8 meals and shared a little goodwill in the midst of our rollercoaster-y week. Go shine your light. It's needed. Yes... the world truly needs you and your brilliance. ACTION: The Upside Challenge this week is to perform a small act of kindness for someone in need. Look for opportunities to extend compassion - a kind word, a donation to a food bank, bringing clothes to a shelter, buying a meal for a friend who's overwhelmed or overworked. Open your eyes and heart to those struggling around you. It may be someone closer than you realize. When you give freely without expectation, you receive just as much in return. In a society focused on individual success, make it a point to consciously choose to put someone in your community first. The world is better when we lift each other up.
By Lisa Marie Platske 14 Mar, 2024
The worst part of my business is seeing people with potential and watching them squander away their opportunities, understanding that if they put the work in and did it with consistent effort, they would be successful. Massively successful. Sure, they may have to make a few sacrifices. How do you think I got to where I'm at today?!? Instead, I see many folks with potential choose the path of least resistance, making excuses for their plight. I didn't get a silver spoon; rather, I graduated from The School of Hard Knocks. You've got to believe you can achieve what you want -- and that you're worthy to have it. This determines what's possible as it's the seed that will produce delicious fruit or not. You can't choose actions and make decisions from a place of lack or scarcity. That only leads to negative results. To change the success cycle, you have to first see the outcome you want, and then believe it's possible because your mind can't tell the difference between what is imagined and what is real. This goes back to the body of work that Aristotle and Plato brought to the world. If you can start to envision what your life will be like putting in the effort and getting the results, you can change the momentum in your life. Most people only envision the result -- and not the work. They see the car they want to drive or the house they want to live in, and forget to envision what they are willing to do to put forth the effort, energy, and work to have what they want. I've learned the more I do the hard things, the easier my life gets. When I do the easy things, the harder my life gets. Believe in yourself and take the necessary actions. If you don't think what you want is possible, borrow my belief in you. The World Needs You and Your Brilliance. ACTION: The Upside Challenge this week is to pick one area of your life where you've been making excuses or taking the path of least resistance. Identify the potential you have in this area that you have not fully tapped into if you were to do the work. Visualize in detail what it would look like and feel like if you put in the effort and achieved the success you desire. Let yourself believe at your core that you are capable of making it happen. Then, write down 1-3 small, specific action steps you can take this week to start making progress. They should feel challenging and actionable. Remember, the only limits on your potential are the ones you place on yourself. That's the power of Upside Thinking.
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