On a recent coaching call, one of my clients who has had countless successes this past year shared she’s lost her excitement for her business.
This is someone who’s had opportunities to address the United Nations, work with teams of executives, and still enjoy time with her family vacationing regularly.
As I listened to her apologize for feeling this way, she blurted out, “And, I know this doesn’t make sense to you because it doesn’t even make sense to me!”
Yet I understood.
When I was feeling at the top of my game in my business, flush with new contracts, and exciting opportunities around the bend, I shared with my husband that I was thinking of throwing in the towel.
I wondered why it felt so hard and didn’t feel like it was worth the time and effort I was putting in.
While I was receiving accolades from my peers and watching possibilities turn into realities in front of my eyes, I felt empty inside.
So, what was the issue?
Oftentimes when pursuing your passion, you may have the belief that it’s going to be all rainbows and unicorns.
You put in the hours and energy and expect that you’ll get to some magic place called “Easytown”.
Yet, the reality is, designing your destiny can feel hard.
There are days when things just won’t work out the way you envisioned.
That doesn’t mean you give up – on yourself or the people you’re called to serve.
And, it doesn’t mean you need to pretend you’re not feeling this way either, plastering a fake smile on your face and telling people how great your life is.
Once you recognize and admit how you’re feeling, you can find ways to make a shift.
I had to come to terms with the lows and highs of owning a business – and identify ways to find more joy in each day.
For me, this meant saying “no” to work that didn’t excite me – and focus on what I enjoy most.
For my client, it meant doing much of the same – first, acknowledging the work of running a business, second, examining how she was spending her day – and third, making changes that allowed her to lead in a way that was most authentic to her skill set.
The Upside Challenge of the week is to reflect on an area in your life now or in the past that is “all good” and yet doesn’t feel that way?
Take the time to acknowledge some truths.
- How hard is what you are doing?
- What is working well?
- How are you spending your day?
- Are you applying your strengths and delegating where you can?
- And ask yourself – how can I create more room for joy?
The world needs you and your brilliance.