By definition, the human heart is “a hollow muscular organ that pumps the blood through the circulatory system by rhythmic contraction and dilation.”

In 7th grade science class, I learned human beings have a four-chambered heart, made up of two atria and two ventricles.

The heart is also defined as “the central or innermost part of something,” and there have been countless studies on what the heart really does for the body.

According to the HeartMath Institute which has researched the connection between the heart and mind since 1991, stress can be mitigated by understanding this connection.

While controversial, their research and training projects have been used in education including public services such as law enforcement and the military.

Even if you didn’t know that research existed, think about why people say things like,

This comes from my heart.

I love you with all of my heart.

I put all of my heart and soul into this project.

My favorite, and the one I use often, “From the bottom of my heart, thank you.”

Is this just languaging being used out of context?

Or, banal phrases that speak about this hollow muscular organ?

Or, could it be that the heart is spoken about in conversation when you’re speaking about what is true for you?!?

Really true.

At the center of your being.

Your core.  

What you hold in your heart is often more real that what you intellectually choose in your mind.

Your mind can be easily fooled – and great leaders understand this.

They often make decisions on intellectual facts – as well as on the humanity of the decision.

When I was working in Federal law enforcement, I had an employee who had a very sick child who was fighting for her life.

One afternoon he ran into my office frantic and said, “My daughter collapsed and is being rushed to the hospital.”

He was in the middle of a very important project and was the lead. We had a tight deadline and him stepping away would be detrimental to the office.

My 1st response was, “Go. Be with her now. Leave your work.” And with that – he was gone, papers strewn all over his desk.

My boss came back and said, “Did you get his leave slip?”

I said, “No, I didn’t get his leave slip – and I don’t care if he ever turns one in.”

Where does that come from?

The heart.

Head and Heart.

They speak different languages, and you need them both. 

You can manufacture positive or negative emotions in your brain by repeating thoughts, affirmations and subliminal messages to create a different set of beliefs, but your heart cannot be tricked into “believing” something different than it feels and understands to be true and real.


The Upside Challenge of the week is to notice whether you tend to decide with your head, your heart, or a combination. Can you see any trends? Make a conscious choice to lead with both. .

The world needs you and your brilliance.

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