With only four (4) days into the new year, I know there are people who have already fallen off the bandwagon.
Yep. New year’s resolutions sound like a great idea.
I mean who doesn’t want to look and feel sexier or eat better?!?
Most people will say they “need” to join the gym, start running or stop smoking/drinking/staying up late/spending too much time on social media, etc.
When I was in college, my best friend’s stepfather, a well-known psychologist, would speak about the harsh reality of resolutions on Good Morning America every year.
His research showed that while most people were committed for a week or two, their habits were too powerful that they’d be back in the same rut by the end of the month.
Yep. To the tune of 93% of failed resolutions.
How about you?
Do you remember what you resolved to do last January?
How did it work out for you?
How about five years ago?
So while I believe that it’s a great time to vow to do something differently less you end up in the same place 365 days from now, it’s more important to identify what you want to do more of, less of, or just improve upon…..what you want to stop, start, or move in a new direction.
And, the best part is you don’t have to wait for January 1st to roll around again to do that.
In my book, Designing Your Destiny, I speak about your ability to reinvent yourself every day.
Because I’ve had my own failed resolutions – and finally get the secret to achievement, I can proudly share that it’s simpler than I originally thought.
In January at my 3-day event Design Your Destiny LIVE (www.DesignYourDestinyLIVE.com ), I will give practical strategies of how to implement the 7 Pillars of Leadership that have gotten clients of mine results that have enabled them to travel the world, do work they love and be well paid for it, and spend more time with family, friends, and loved ones. ((Oh, and there are some great testimonies about the event – check them out here ))
My individual client testimonials validate how with the right partner it can be easy-peasy to make money and be seen, heard, and recognized with BIG opportunities -and to do it all without having to change who you are. ((The benefits of my 20-year learning curve…))
The 1st pillar is starting with a written plan and I walk you through how to do that so you get results.
Knowing what you want and being willing to ask for it is the secret to life.
Unfortunately, most people don’t know what they want or how to ask for it so beginning with the end in mind is only one teeny-tiny piece of this pillar (which is why you need to come to the event! – www.DesignYourDestinyLIVE.com )
It’s your WHY that matters.
• Why are you where you are right now?
• Why aren’t you already where you want to be?
• What do you think will happen if you get to that end?
If you ask yourself difficult questions and are honest with yourself, you may have answers you don’t like, but you will have a real place to start.
Over the past year and ½, I lost 30 pounds.
It wasn’t my intention to lose 30 pounds. It was my intention to get rid of heart inflammation and be able to digest food properly.
I could have given many excuses to myself and others as to why I was operating the way I was and how weight gain was normal and natural –> –> I travel a lot, I don’t love to cook unless it’s with Jim, I have a lot on my plate….blah, blah, blah……but I knew understood my why.
How about you?
• Why are you out of shape?
• Why are you not doing what you love?
• Why are you not making the difference you were called to make in the world?
• Why are you snippy and on edge with the people you love?
• Why are you not making the money you deserve?
What excuses are you giving yourself?
The answers to the questions above are foundational to setting a resolution and achieving it.
Choice – Direction – Commitment – Consistent Action.
It’s that simple.
You can’t make a change unless you know how you got there, what you have to do differently, and whether you are willing to make the commitment to do something about it.
One of my clients tried to lose weight for years.
Now, I’m not a weight-loss coach, however, it was getting in the way of her success and one of my gifts is to teach my clients how to remove barriers that keep them from increasing their impact, influence, and income.
In our sessions, I challenged her with the above process coupled with loving on herself – and the weight literally fell off. (Well, not literally…..but it was pretty fast.)
Ultimately, she understood why she was where she was. She made changes to her lifestyle, and even had countless post-it notes in her car and around the house to remind her of where she was going.
She made a choice, put a plan in place, committed to the results she wanted which was around her health and inflammation, and consistently took actions every day that were in alignment with what she had resolved to do.
ACTION ITEM: The Upside Challenge of the week is to resolve to do something you WANT, not NEED to do. Identify something that would be Upside and resolve to do that.
Here are a few examples:
• Love more. Call one person every week for the next 52 weeks and tell them you are grateful for knowing them. Make a list. Start now.
• Care more. Go out of your way to carry out an act of kindness every day, preferably by 10am.
• Give more. Whether it’s your time, your talent, or your treasure, vow to give something of value to someone you love every day.
• Work more. Research shows that 80% of people at work could do more if they wanted to. This isn’t about the number of hours you’re working; it’s about the quality of your output. Plan on giving your best every day and working to the best of your ability. Go the extra mile.
• Invest more. How you grow and develop yourself makes a difference to everyone you meet. Invest in your personal and professional development.
Yes, I see a year filled with happiness, success and meaning if you design your destiny.