Clarity and the Power of Our Words

Lisa Marie Platske • April 9, 2018

 

You are attracting the struggle that may be showing up in your life. Yes, I get this because I’ve been there – more times than I’d like to admit. And this is because our words have power.


I sat down at my desk with a long list of to-do’s for the week.


In addition to my work commitments, I had a list of random personal items in my head that I was putting to paper.


After arranging the papers that were on my desk from the week before, the phone rang.


Before I could see who it was, I had this sensation that it was the woman I have been meaning to connect with whose name I just wrote down on my to-do list.


And, it was!


How crazy was that?!?


Or, was it?


I should never be surprised at what shows up in my life as it’s often because I manifested it.


What is on your mind manifests – and sometimes it happens in an instant.


I see this play out in my life every day.


From parking spaces to new client opportunities, I turn possibilities into realities all of the time.


Yet, I forget and sometimes even doubt it.


And, it works both ways.


One of my dear friends recognizes that I have a special parking angel and always manage to get the best parking spots regardless of where I’m going.


Last summer, I was invited to go to lunch with a friend at the Greek church as their annual festival had just opened.


People were lined up for blocks, parking on the side of the road for miles.


We pulled up in front of the church – and I pulled into one of the two spots that had just opened up.


After I parked, she was nowhere to be found.


I got out of my car and saw my friend driving up and down the street looking for a spot while I stood in the empty spot I had mentally claimed for her.


I finally got her attention by moving my arms all around and jumping up and down – and summoned her into the parking place next to me.


After she parked, she got out and asked how I did it.


Easy.


I trust that I’ll get the perfect spot right in front of the place I’m going – and I’m actually excited to see what will show up.


As I said earlier, it works both ways.


In January of 2017, I had a debilitating bout of plantar fasciitis.


After my annual Design Your Destiny Live event, I could hardly walk offstage.


This led to me stopping my daily workouts at the gym and paying less attention to my diet.


I gained weight and started feeling crummy about myself because of the extra weight I began carrying.


The more I focused on the weight gain and the situation I didn’t want, the less I was able to shift the energy associated with it.


So, after the plantar fasciitis got better – I experienced another injury!


What I focus on increases.


And, the same is true for you.


The good news is you can make a shift.


Over the past year, I’ve focused on loving myself for being perfectly proportioned and curvy, feeling beautiful for being me, and grateful for being able to walk and do what I love for a living.


It’s made a difference – and this year at Design Your Destiny Live someone actually commented me for owning my beautiful curves!


And, not only do I feel better, I’m making better choices with my diet.


One of the areas where clients will often shy away from speaking about is money.


Yet, the same holds true for wealth and affluence.


When you’re struggling with prosperity or getting clients, a great place to check in first is what messages you’re creating.


If you believe that what you do is amazing, yet are convinced that no one will pay you what you’re worth…


Or, you recognize you need to raise your rates or ask your boss for a raise, yet just haven’t brought yourself to take action…


Or, you’ve applied for something you wanted and are waiting for the rejection letter… (Yep. I’ve done this – and it’s crazy-making…)


You are attracting the struggle that may be showing up in your life.


Yes, I get this because I’ve been there.


And, more times than I’d like to admit.


Now, this doesn’t mean you sit on your couch eating bonbons while opportunities just show up. ((Although at times they have….))


Clarity is tricky and elusive – and there is incredible power when you get clear on what you want and put your energy and thoughts in that direction.


You will manifest where you give your attention to, although not always as you have envisioned.


Several years ago, one of my clients manifested the man of her dreams after one conversation with me – and she hadn’t dated for 8 years!


And, another client manifested a car – in the color and price she wanted – $30K less than the original sticker price!


So, where are you putting your focus on right now?


Are you clear about what you want – and why it matters? (Basic questions from my 1st book, Designing Your Destiny…)


As Lisa Nichols said,


“When your clarity meets your conviction, and you apply action to the equation, your world will begin to transform before your eyes.”


Action:

The Upside Challenge of the week is to speak what you want out loud every day for the next 7 days – to yourself in the mirror and to one friend.


Remember, the world needs you and your brilliance.

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In September 1985 I started my junior year in high school. While I didn't hang out with the most popular bunch, I wasn't considered an outcast either. Perhaps that's one of the places where I learned how to build bridges. Because of it, when I ran for Student Council, much to my own disbelief, I was elected to something. This led to my first official initiation into formal leadership training. While I had taken on roles in school running organizations or organizing projects, this felt like I was officially sanctioned as a leader. I was "doing" leadership. Only leadership isn't something you do, it's something you have to be. You either are a leader or you're not. Lots of folks with titles walk around believing they are a leader or have a lot of knowledge about the topic. Leadership requires wisdom, and wisdom comes from experience. Experience doesn't come from books or even doing. It comes from an inner aptitude when you connect with a purpose that's greater than you. It took me years to understand this ... and many more to be able to share how to get there. That’s the thread that runs through everything I do, including the work we explore in the F Cadre. It’s the work of being the kind of leader who moves life itself. The world will always have opinions about who you should be and what you should chase. And the work that matters asks only that you tune in and follow the pull of what truly matters. Leadership shows up in the person who feels it all, and keeps moving forward. That is where everything worth leading and living begins. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to make space for what truly matters—literally. Declutter one small space today (desk, inbox, calendar) and use that as a literal reflection of making room for what truly matters Let that small act remind you: real leadership, real purpose, and real growth always start in the space you choose to make.
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I've had the tendency to idolize my mentors. I would look past their imperfections, wanting only to see goodness in them. Don't make the same mistake I did. Mentors are just imperfect beings on the same journey you're on, and they've gleaned some wisdom from their missteps that can help you advance faster on your journey. That's the benefit of private coaching. And why I offer so little of it. I used to think I wanted to help everyone ... and that everyone had a problem that I could help them solve. That was a bit unrealistic—and dare I say, arrogant. Today I've got clarity around who I will work with—and who I won't. And it has less to do with their personal aptitude and more about their personal attitude towards God and a willingness to understand Divine Right Timing. You can't outgive God. I'm a living proof of that. What I have today did not come from striving harder or positioning myself in the spotlight. It came from obedience layered over time. ~ From saying yes when it was inconvenient. ~ From giving when the numbers did not justify it. ~ From trusting God with my pace, my work, and my future. I own several hundred acres of land across three states—and grew up in a household where money did not flow freely. My first year working in Federal law enforcement I made less than $25,000 a year. There was no visible pathway from there to here. And every time I’ve tried to outwork Him, outmaneuver Him, or rush what wasn’t ripe, I’ve paid for it in exhaustion and misalignment. Yet, every time I’ve trusted Him, honored timing, and given from obedience rather than fear, the return has exceeded anything I could have engineered. Yes, some things don't make sense, yet when you map out a God plan, you don't try to do all of the heavy lifting yourself. And that takes a different kind of Leader. Someone who doesn't need to be on center stage 24x7. That’s the framework I lead from. That’s the lens I coach through. Because the world needs you and your brilliance. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to give God room to lead. Look at one area of your work or leadership where you’ve been forcing results. Stop trying to control it. Step back and ask God to guide your next move. Take one real action: delegate, pause before deciding, or simply wait on His direction. Watch how alignment show up when you stop doing all the heavy lifting yourself. Lastly, share what you discover with me, your mentor, or someone close to you. Speaking it aloud helps you see your next move clearly and step into it with confidence.
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Are you thinking of how your choices today are affecting future generations? As someone who doesn't have kids, this used to rarely be on my radar. Yet your choice to bring to life the work that you're called to do will impact the future of your lineage—and folks you've never met. What story will you create based on the choices you make today? See, you create your legacy with the choices that you make right now. The long-lasting impact of your actions can leave behind creations that are innovative and impactful. Take for example the 13-year-old kid who decided to leave a happy note in every bag at the grocery store, just to create a little more cheer in the world. That's legacy. Or what about the kid who practiced free throws every night after school for 3 hours—and then went on to lead his team to the championship in his senior year in college. That's legacy. I remember a few years ago, I hired someone to organize the SOPs and processes for my company. At the time, it felt like a lot of extra work and I wondered if it was worth it. Years later, that choice made everything flow smoother, less rushed, and allowed me and my team to focus on the work we were truly called to do. That’s legacy. Leadership is, as much about what you do in the here and now as it is about legacy for future generations to come. Every one of these moments, big or small, ripples far beyond what you can see today. Each day, each decision plants seeds for generations we may never meet. Tend them with care, with intention, and with faith, trusting that what you do today becomes the foundation for what is possible tomorrow. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to build for someone you will never meet. Choose one action this week that will not benefit you immediately. It could be documenting a process so someone else can lead more easily. Or speaking encouragement that strengthens someone’s confidence long after the moment passes. Or making a decision that protects the future even when the present would prefer convenience. As you do it, hold this prayer quietly, “May this serve beyond me.” Release the outcome. This is leadership that thinks generationally.
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