Clarity and the Power of Our Words

Lisa Marie Platske • April 9, 2018

 

You are attracting the struggle that may be showing up in your life. Yes, I get this because I’ve been there – more times than I’d like to admit. And this is because our words have power.


I sat down at my desk with a long list of to-do’s for the week.


In addition to my work commitments, I had a list of random personal items in my head that I was putting to paper.


After arranging the papers that were on my desk from the week before, the phone rang.


Before I could see who it was, I had this sensation that it was the woman I have been meaning to connect with whose name I just wrote down on my to-do list.


And, it was!


How crazy was that?!?


Or, was it?


I should never be surprised at what shows up in my life as it’s often because I manifested it.


What is on your mind manifests – and sometimes it happens in an instant.


I see this play out in my life every day.


From parking spaces to new client opportunities, I turn possibilities into realities all of the time.


Yet, I forget and sometimes even doubt it.


And, it works both ways.


One of my dear friends recognizes that I have a special parking angel and always manage to get the best parking spots regardless of where I’m going.


Last summer, I was invited to go to lunch with a friend at the Greek church as their annual festival had just opened.


People were lined up for blocks, parking on the side of the road for miles.


We pulled up in front of the church – and I pulled into one of the two spots that had just opened up.


After I parked, she was nowhere to be found.


I got out of my car and saw my friend driving up and down the street looking for a spot while I stood in the empty spot I had mentally claimed for her.


I finally got her attention by moving my arms all around and jumping up and down – and summoned her into the parking place next to me.


After she parked, she got out and asked how I did it.


Easy.


I trust that I’ll get the perfect spot right in front of the place I’m going – and I’m actually excited to see what will show up.


As I said earlier, it works both ways.


In January of 2017, I had a debilitating bout of plantar fasciitis.


After my annual Design Your Destiny Live event, I could hardly walk offstage.


This led to me stopping my daily workouts at the gym and paying less attention to my diet.


I gained weight and started feeling crummy about myself because of the extra weight I began carrying.


The more I focused on the weight gain and the situation I didn’t want, the less I was able to shift the energy associated with it.


So, after the plantar fasciitis got better – I experienced another injury!


What I focus on increases.


And, the same is true for you.


The good news is you can make a shift.


Over the past year, I’ve focused on loving myself for being perfectly proportioned and curvy, feeling beautiful for being me, and grateful for being able to walk and do what I love for a living.


It’s made a difference – and this year at Design Your Destiny Live someone actually commented me for owning my beautiful curves!


And, not only do I feel better, I’m making better choices with my diet.


One of the areas where clients will often shy away from speaking about is money.


Yet, the same holds true for wealth and affluence.


When you’re struggling with prosperity or getting clients, a great place to check in first is what messages you’re creating.


If you believe that what you do is amazing, yet are convinced that no one will pay you what you’re worth…


Or, you recognize you need to raise your rates or ask your boss for a raise, yet just haven’t brought yourself to take action…


Or, you’ve applied for something you wanted and are waiting for the rejection letter… (Yep. I’ve done this – and it’s crazy-making…)


You are attracting the struggle that may be showing up in your life.


Yes, I get this because I’ve been there.


And, more times than I’d like to admit.


Now, this doesn’t mean you sit on your couch eating bonbons while opportunities just show up. ((Although at times they have….))


Clarity is tricky and elusive – and there is incredible power when you get clear on what you want and put your energy and thoughts in that direction.


You will manifest where you give your attention to, although not always as you have envisioned.


Several years ago, one of my clients manifested the man of her dreams after one conversation with me – and she hadn’t dated for 8 years!


And, another client manifested a car – in the color and price she wanted – $30K less than the original sticker price!


So, where are you putting your focus on right now?


Are you clear about what you want – and why it matters? (Basic questions from my 1st book, Designing Your Destiny…)


As Lisa Nichols said,


“When your clarity meets your conviction, and you apply action to the equation, your world will begin to transform before your eyes.”


Action:

The Upside Challenge of the week is to speak what you want out loud every day for the next 7 days – to yourself in the mirror and to one friend.


Remember, the world needs you and your brilliance.

When Staying Liked Costs Your Soul

By Lisa Marie Platske • February 2, 2026
You have been hard-wired for greatness so stop trying so hard to be something other than who you are. I see it all the time. Folks who tie themselves into knots, seeking the approval of others. Oh, it's not conscious. Most leaders would tell you that they're comfortable being their own boss, in charge of their time. Behind closed doors, many of them have told me something different. And that's because conflict, being misunderstood, and being vilified are pretty crummy. Most folks want to be liked. They want to be valued and appreciated for the effort they've put in. Your greatest gift to the planet is to be fully, completely, and unapologetically who you are. Doing that may come with some pretty harsh consequences ... which is why most leaders are willing to sell out. The thing that isn't always self-evident about compromising your values and beliefs is that every night you're stuck with you. You have to look at yourself in the mirror. You are the only one who understands the choices you've made—right, wrong, or indifferent. When the day is done, the truth always meets you in the quiet. It asks whether you stood in integrity or traded pieces of yourself to keep the peace. Leadership requires decisions that don’t win applause. It often asks you to hold your ground when others want you to bend. Living aligned with who you are may cost you approval or relationships. Yet, it will never cost you your soul. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to name a decision you’ve been avoiding because it feels risky or uncomfortable. It could be ending a partnership that no longer serves your vision, raising the standards for a client, or closing a door that keeps you from your calling. Take one bold, aligned action this week that honors your integrity and the leader you were created to be.

The Joy of Living Your Divine Mission

By Lisa Marie Platske • January 26, 2026
"Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose." ~ Helen Keller Purpose. The dictionary definition is, " the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. " You were put on the planet for a reason ... a purpose. And, part of the joy of the journey is to be in the discovery and fulfillment of that divine purpose . Perhaps that's why Helen Keller said what she said. Too often, folks get sidetracked by fame and fortune, or comfort and easy. While they each have their allure, they will never bring you happiness. True happiness comes from meaning. Over the decades, there have been countless subjects and research projects on the topic of happiness. The results of all of them have pointed back to this truth. When I think about the leaders that I've had the privilege of working with, the ones that were the happiest weren't the ones that had situations that were easy. Actually, life came down pretty hard on some of them and they were in peril. While they came to me seeking answers about how to right the ship, the journey rarely involved signing a multi-million dollar deal that got them to happiness island. It was the ability to peel away each layer of their circumstances and see it through the lens of their divine mission and purpose. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to notice where your influence thrive. At times, we can lose sight of what truly matters. So today, observe the work, conversations, and moments where you naturally make a difference. Do more of those things, even in small ways. Your purpose is revealed in the places where your leadership produces impact and meaning.

Where Focus Goes, Expansion Flows

By Lisa Marie Platske • January 19, 2026

Holding It All Together Isn’t the Goal

By Lisa Marie Platske • January 12, 2026
No matter how happy someone may seem, they have moments when they question if they can go on. And no matter how strong someone may appear, they have days when they feel like they're falling apart. That's one of the most confusing aspects of leadership. See, most leaders feel that because they're the one at the helm steering the ship, they should have it together and be "on" 24x7. And that's unrealistic. Yet that belief has caused many leaders to sink their ship because of the inability to reach out and ask for help. No one can go it alone. Every leader needs someone to lean on. Phrases like "Only the strong survive." and "You gotta just 'man' up." do more damage than good. I learned this when I was working in Federal law enforcement and 9/11 hit. The superhuman requests to work hours that pushed the body to the limits were a recipe for certain disaster. Men and women who may have needed someone to talk to themselves to process their grief were thrust into the grim reality that they were needed more than ever—and needed to be stronger than they knew how to do. One of the NYPD beat cops that I had befriended was in the middle of a shift when he had a full-blown meltdown on 5th Avenue in New York City six months after 9/11. The walk of leadership never has been—and never will be—a solo affair. You need other folks around you that you can trust and rely on in good times and not-so-good times. And I'm not talking about a friend, spouse, or family member. I'm talking about a trusted advisor with whom you can turn matter what is working or on fire. Because every leader deserves a space to be real, to be guided, and to be reminded of the truth of who they are . The kind of space I’ve devoted my life to creating for those called to lead from purpose. And when leaders have that kind of support, the moments that once felt too heavy begin to make sense. They find the strength to keep going because they’re no longer doing it on their own. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to think and name one person who you can turn to when leadership feels heavy. Reach out to one of them this week. Tell the truth about where you are. Because even leaders need a place to lean.
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By Lisa Marie Platske • February 2, 2026
You have been hard-wired for greatness so stop trying so hard to be something other than who you are. I see it all the time. Folks who tie themselves into knots, seeking the approval of others. Oh, it's not conscious. Most leaders would tell you that they're comfortable being their own boss, in charge of their time. Behind closed doors, many of them have told me something different. And that's because conflict, being misunderstood, and being vilified are pretty crummy. Most folks want to be liked. They want to be valued and appreciated for the effort they've put in. Your greatest gift to the planet is to be fully, completely, and unapologetically who you are. Doing that may come with some pretty harsh consequences ... which is why most leaders are willing to sell out. The thing that isn't always self-evident about compromising your values and beliefs is that every night you're stuck with you. You have to look at yourself in the mirror. You are the only one who understands the choices you've made—right, wrong, or indifferent. When the day is done, the truth always meets you in the quiet. It asks whether you stood in integrity or traded pieces of yourself to keep the peace. Leadership requires decisions that don’t win applause. It often asks you to hold your ground when others want you to bend. Living aligned with who you are may cost you approval or relationships. Yet, it will never cost you your soul. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to name a decision you’ve been avoiding because it feels risky or uncomfortable. It could be ending a partnership that no longer serves your vision, raising the standards for a client, or closing a door that keeps you from your calling. Take one bold, aligned action this week that honors your integrity and the leader you were created to be.

The Joy of Living Your Divine Mission

By Lisa Marie Platske • January 26, 2026
"Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose." ~ Helen Keller Purpose. The dictionary definition is, " the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. " You were put on the planet for a reason ... a purpose. And, part of the joy of the journey is to be in the discovery and fulfillment of that divine purpose . Perhaps that's why Helen Keller said what she said. Too often, folks get sidetracked by fame and fortune, or comfort and easy. While they each have their allure, they will never bring you happiness. True happiness comes from meaning. Over the decades, there have been countless subjects and research projects on the topic of happiness. The results of all of them have pointed back to this truth. When I think about the leaders that I've had the privilege of working with, the ones that were the happiest weren't the ones that had situations that were easy. Actually, life came down pretty hard on some of them and they were in peril. While they came to me seeking answers about how to right the ship, the journey rarely involved signing a multi-million dollar deal that got them to happiness island. It was the ability to peel away each layer of their circumstances and see it through the lens of their divine mission and purpose. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to notice where your influence thrive. At times, we can lose sight of what truly matters. So today, observe the work, conversations, and moments where you naturally make a difference. Do more of those things, even in small ways. Your purpose is revealed in the places where your leadership produces impact and meaning.

Where Focus Goes, Expansion Flows

By Lisa Marie Platske • January 19, 2026

Holding It All Together Isn’t the Goal

By Lisa Marie Platske • January 12, 2026
No matter how happy someone may seem, they have moments when they question if they can go on. And no matter how strong someone may appear, they have days when they feel like they're falling apart. That's one of the most confusing aspects of leadership. See, most leaders feel that because they're the one at the helm steering the ship, they should have it together and be "on" 24x7. And that's unrealistic. Yet that belief has caused many leaders to sink their ship because of the inability to reach out and ask for help. No one can go it alone. Every leader needs someone to lean on. Phrases like "Only the strong survive." and "You gotta just 'man' up." do more damage than good. I learned this when I was working in Federal law enforcement and 9/11 hit. The superhuman requests to work hours that pushed the body to the limits were a recipe for certain disaster. Men and women who may have needed someone to talk to themselves to process their grief were thrust into the grim reality that they were needed more than ever—and needed to be stronger than they knew how to do. One of the NYPD beat cops that I had befriended was in the middle of a shift when he had a full-blown meltdown on 5th Avenue in New York City six months after 9/11. The walk of leadership never has been—and never will be—a solo affair. You need other folks around you that you can trust and rely on in good times and not-so-good times. And I'm not talking about a friend, spouse, or family member. I'm talking about a trusted advisor with whom you can turn matter what is working or on fire. Because every leader deserves a space to be real, to be guided, and to be reminded of the truth of who they are . The kind of space I’ve devoted my life to creating for those called to lead from purpose. And when leaders have that kind of support, the moments that once felt too heavy begin to make sense. They find the strength to keep going because they’re no longer doing it on their own. ACTION: The Upside Challenge for the week is to think and name one person who you can turn to when leadership feels heavy. Reach out to one of them this week. Tell the truth about where you are. Because even leaders need a place to lean.
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