Did you ever feel as if who you are isn’t good enough for what you’ve been called to do? 

Did you ever struggle with believing that you’re capable of doing what you’ve been asked to do? 

Did you ever think that perhaps someday you would get a call and someone would tell you there was a mix-up in the purpose department and they’d tell you this really wasn’t supposed to be your life after all? 

I certainly have. 

I remember sitting on the mustard-yellow love seat in the living room at our home in California daydreaming about what it would look like if I were the perfect wife who simultaneously ran the perfect business. 

I made a list about what she would do and how she would do it. 

The laundry would be done, the house would be neat and tidy, an elaborate dinner would be prepared, all while the proposals were written and the clients were sending me flowers and raving about how I overdelivered. 

Every time I didn’t get something done, I would beat myself up mentally for not having what it obviously took to be a good wife and a successful business owner. 

I mean really, what was wrong with me?!? 

Yet, somehow the answers seemed obvious. 

  • I lacked experience.
  • I wasn’t driven.
  • I didn’t have what it takes to succeed.

 As someone who never wanted to get married (there was no Ken in my Barbie world as a kid) nor did I ever have the desire to open a business which is why I majored in Criminal Justice not business. 

I was pretty sure I was called to lead – and as a Federal law enforcement officer, I got to do that. 

So, how in the world did I end up here – married and a business owner with no business degree? 

In looking back at over 15 years of business opportunities, I’ve represented Fortune 500 clients, facilitated trainings in various parts of the world, worked with executives, university educators, non-profit leaders, and entrepreneurs in over 30 industries. 

I’ve been blessed to work with large, diverse audiences and coached leaders, walking them through deep, meaningful exercises that transformed their workplaces and personal lives. 

I can’t tell you how many times I asked God, “Are you sure you have the right person? Don’t you understand how unqualified I am? Have you considered asking someone else to do this? Surely they would be more qualified.” 


It’s easy to look around and believe there are lots of people way more qualified than me. 

Yet, I can see how the Holy Spirit has given me direction to do this vs. that. 

And, I’ve been shown that even with all of my imperfections I’ve got the exact qualities my husband needs in a wife – and my clients need in a guide and mentor. 

I’m humbled and amazed by the life I have despite its downs and ups – and sometimes laugh at how many times (even last week) I’ve been wondering how I got this lucky. 

And, maybe you’ve felt that way too. How in the world could this be your life?!? 

Maybe you aren’t feeling very qualified and that you’d like to have a different assignment. 

Leaders get the amount of depth and breadth of courage it takes to stay the course – and fully step into where they’re called to lead. 

Yes, destiny designing isn’t always the easiest. 

My invitation is for you to put down your measuring stick. And your excuses. 

You have gifts, abilities, talents, and experiences the world needs. 

Right now. 

As someone who understands, being qualified is overrated. 

Your time is now. 

So, get to it. 

ACTION:  The Upside Challenge of the week is to turn off the voice of doubt about your qualifications. 

Turn it into action, by challenging yourself with this question instead: How am I uniquely qualified to serve? 

This week take 1 action using the gifts, abilities, talents, and skills you have identified. 

The world needs you and your brilliance. ♥

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