Counting Your Wins When What You Want Doesn’t Work Out – Upside Thought of the Week – July 28, 2014

Greetings,

Have you ever had a day when you wanted to walk away from everything you’ve been working for…..

…….a day when nothing seems to be going your way and you feel like you’re banging your head on a brick wall?(Ouch. Ouch. Ouch……)

…….a day when your fears seem bigger than your faith?

…….a day when hiding under the covers would be easier than finding a way to make what you want work?

Well, I’ve had a few of those days myself.

And, they’re never pretty.

Here’s my latest failure/success story.

For the past few weeks, I’ve been promoting my Leadership Success Summit retreat.

It’s an event I’ve hosted for the past two years that gives difference makers a chance to strategize with other big picture thinkers, leave with a step-by-step plan of action, and do it while having fun and laughing. Since there are less than 10 of us, it’s also an opportunity to get naked and do it with a glass of wine. (Oh, the places we could go with that one….)

And, today, I should be sharing with you all of the pictures of people working, laughing, and getting sh*t done. I imagined a night out in DC walking around the monuments, talking about our own legacies.

Instead, I’m sharing my story about an event that didn’t happen.

You see, three weeks ago, I had 3 people signed up and 5 people who said they would sign up on Monday.

I was overjoyed. I did a happy dance that weekend and kept thinking how wonderful it would be to be sold out early.

And, then Monday happened….

  • One person was going on vacation two weeks prior and two people were taking vacation the week after – and all 3 didn’t want to be taking three back to back weeks out of their business…..so they all bowed out. (Two of them are Diamond Success Circle clients and the 3rd person was a former client who is signing up for the 7th Annual  Leadership Success Summit -January 23 – 24, 2015.)
  • Two people decided they my 7th Annual Leadership Success Summit in January 2015 is a better fit and signed up for that instead.
  • One person is having medical issues and was concerned about the stress from traveling.
  • And, the last person wanted to work with me privately and signed up for my Seize Your Spotlight Platinum coaching program.

Since it was 2 weeks before the event, I had a choice to make – stop all of my other projects and give this event 100% of my attention or acknowledge that something just wasn’t working.

So, rather than fight and struggle to move forward with this event, I called the person who was looking forward to the event and asked her if she wanted to have 2-days with me or cancel.

She said cancel as she was looking forward to a group event. (She is one of my Diamond Success Circle clients and gets lots of one-on-one time with me.)

Poof. And, then there were none.

Two weeks ago, I was soooo close to filling the event that I could taste the yummy deliciousness of success.

And, 24 hours later, I was questioning whether I was a failure in business.

It’s always much easier for me to come up with the long list of all of the things I got wrong vs. any of the things I’ve ever done right.

It’s always much easier for me to let my fears get bigger than my faith rather than trusting that everything happens in Divine right timing.

Can you relate?

If I feel as if when I’m failing at something, I’m failing at being me – living up the brilliance that I know lives inside of me.

ACTION ITEM: The Upside Challenge is to make a list of the 5 things that you get right in life. Fold it up and put it in your wallet. Pull it out on a day when what you want doesn’t work out.

Counting my wins when what I want doesn’t work out isn’t easy but whether or not it is clear to you and me or not, no doubt the universe is unfolding just as it should.

Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely. Live Upside.

p.s. The client who wanted to attend the retreat called me and said that she was so glad it was cancelled as she needed the day off. Yep. Divine right timing.

p.p.s. Jim planned a fabulous weekend for the two of us including a ½ day off on Friday to walk around Mount Vernon followed by the purchase of a spectacular abstract pre-9/11 New York skyline oil painting of the  that I had been admiring. On Saturday, we wandered around Georgetown. Jim bought me a rockstar necklace to wear at the 7th Annual Leadership Success Summit (it’s fabulous!) and we finished the evening with dinner at a 5-star restaurant overlooking DC. Yep. Divine right timing.

Turning Possibilities into Realities,

Lisa Marie Platske

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